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Friday, January 11, 2013

Who is this dude?



Where did this guy even come from? I ask myself that question every single day!

In the summer, 7 years ago one of my girlfriends had a baby and I went to visit her in the hospital. When I walked in, my friend’s husband was in there with her and there was a tall, dark, and handsome man in there with them. I met him once, but remembered him forever. Later that year, we met up and talked once. We exchanged numbers and texted little to none and didn’t have any contact after that.


Even though we hadn’t spoken for years,  infrequently I would ask my girlfriend about him. (more so, just to find out if he was married or not, but that’s neither here nor there) This year, right before Christmas, I happened to ask about him and told her to pray that he could come home.  Christmas Eve I get a call from my girlfriend that he’s coming home and she’s going to host an early brunch so we can “run into” each other.

I’m super excited and I’m getting ready Christmas morning, and the next think you know, I find out that he’s not coming to brunch due to him and his family having family time. Ok. Cool. I said, ok. Maybe another time…Hopefully. I hear NOTHING. I told my girlfriend, I just need him to see me once and go on a date with him just once, so at least I know that I gave it a try.

New Year’s eve. I get a text message from him telling me hi and that he was going to call me this week, but that he just wanted me to save his number so that when he calls, I know it’s him.
He calls me last Wednesday. When we talked. It was like we picked up right where we left off. It was fun, it was easy, it wasn’t awkward, and we just talked about complete randomness. I was already smitten. Like I had been, for the past 7 years, from the initial meeting.  We talked the day after that and he told me, I want to see you. When can I see you? We ended up confirming for this past Saturday.

Saturday, we have our date. I scowered the city for an outfit. I didn’t want to be too sexy, because I wanted him to look at me, but pay attention to what I was actually saying.(thanks to a friend. I had sexy alllll in my thoughts initially!)  I saw him and he was just absolutely gorgeous. We went to Sushi Zushi and just had amazing conversation. We had so much in common and I was just liking him more and more. Afterwards we went to a nearby wine bar and just talked and talked some more. He surprised me and bought the bottle of wine that we both knocked all the way out together. Made out in the car on the way home and we’ve been inseparable all the way since.

Sunday, I met his parents and his sister and had family game night playing phase 10.  I still think his mother cheats! Then… Monday… he met my dad and some of my friends at an Alabama vs Notre Dame watch party. Every single night I was coming in late because I was him. 

Super exhausted at work all day everyday all week? Yes! Worked out one day this week? Yes! Ate unhealthy and greasy goodness all week with him? Hell yes! It was soooo worth it.

Trying my hand one more time at an LDR (long distance relationship), but it's just different this time. I'm not in college, I'm more mature, more patient, and more understanding. Most importantly, I have an income to actually work with this time to actually move about the cabin and have drinks. 

Cheers to me, moving on and finding what's really right and meant to be. 

Have you ever been in an LDR? How did it work out for you? Any suggestions on things to do... or not to do too?


What really just happened?



I think at this point, I’m in a state of shock. An overwhelming ball of emotion. 

IDK how on earth I ended up in a relationship last this week!

I know, This is the man that I prayed for. I asked God to send me a God fearing man, that came from a good family, was tall, dark, and handsome, and thought the world of me. I asked for God to send me an ambitious man that was focused, had an amazing work ethic, was goal oriented and would be a great provider for our family.  I prayed that he would be smart, good with money, has good relationship with his parents, and loves his mama.
This man is every single one of those things.

I think I’m a little bit in denial. I just got out of a totally horrible situation that was never going to work, that I thought I could make work because I wasn’t sure if I could do any better. Glad I was dead wrong. 

TP was not what I was praying for in the least. He was none of those things that I listed.
I know this is moving fast. He's just left today to go to a training in Virginia, but It just feels right. 

I don’t know what’s about to happen between us, as we are in a long distance relationship at this point, but it just feels right.

Have you ever been in a long distance relationship before? Any tips for me?

Monday, January 7, 2013

Into the New Year

Remember "the new guy" that I went on a date with, that went shopping with me right after the breakup?

How about, I haven't heard from him at all since our date! WTF is that about? He wont answer my calls or my texts. I let that situation go. In the words of one of my girlfriends, he was just a rebound guy anyway.

Everything is looking so much better!! I had an awesome New Year that I celebrated out of town. Of course TP still texts me once a week to "check" on me. How nice of him right? HA! What a jackass. I know he's doing that solely because he doesn't want me to get over him and his stupidity.

It's funny how you can think something is so wonderful and amazing and then you later realize how whack it really was in the first place. I hate to quote Beyonce but, "it sucks to be you right now!"

I do not do resolutions since I feel that resolutions are something that you should be doing in the first place. Instead, I do goal setting. As opposed to traditionally just writing down all of my goals, I create a vision board. As your goals will probably change throughout the year as you accomplish them, so does your vision board. I've been thinking about everything that I want to accomplish this year and I've been frantically flipping through magazines trying to get it together! As soon as it's completed, I'll have to post a picture! I think one of the most of important goals I have for the new year is to practice having patience. I always always always, want what I want, the moment that I want it, completely disregarding how there is a work in process with everything. Nothing in life is really instant. That's my goal for sure for this year. Hell. for the rest of my life.

Do you believe in resolutions? Why or why not? Do you prefer goal setting?