Is it really real?

After learning through experience, I have found that it is best to keep my opinions to myself unless I am specifically asked for them. Even when I am asked for my opinion, I should tone it down as much as possible, since most people really don't want your opinion, they actually just want to you to agree with whatever poppycock they are spouting at the moment.

I know a woman that is dating this man. As it has been relayed to me, the man is separated from his wife. In reference to the separation, he has told her that the entire marriage was a mistake and he got her pregnant on accident, but he loves his son. They are separated, however, he has not filed for divorce nor separation. (Does that mean they are just "verbally" separated?) He supposedly  is concerned with the custody of his child as he knows that it is going to be a custody battle. He no longer lives with his wife and has his own house and lives alone.

When she asks about filing for divorce and how it's going, he gets an attitude. When she finally asks him, how soon after the divorce do you think that we will get married,  his response was, well, we would really have to get to know each other and then go from there. (They've been dating for two years. How well do you they really need to get to know each other?)

She stopped seeing him and then started seeing him again. She now claims they're like best friends. ( I was unaware that you had sex with your best friend) He does ignorant things to her like tell her go to hell etc just to get a rise out of her to see how she will react. She blows up his phone, they have it out, and then they are back to square one. Yet she still sticks around after all of this. Is that really how a friend treats a friend? She swears that he's the most real guy that she's met in this town. She swears she loves him, he loves her, and that he's the person that she's supposed to marry. What does love really look like?

I have a few questions: is he really going to divorce his wife or is it just cheaper to keep her? Is he stringing the woman along? Is she his mistress? He has been disrespecting her for the past two years by not even filing for divorce? Are they really dating since he is legally still married? What's really going on? Why hasn't she stopped talking to him?Why is he stringing her along as such.

Do you have any insight on this? I'm certainly confused and would like some clarification.

PS. no, this is most definitely not me.

Sometimes I Should Shut Up

Apparently, I need to think before I text.

Texting a close friend at work ( I know, I know, but I was on my lunch break), and somehow I ended up expressing my feelings about her ex. Which really isn't too much of her ex, especially since they are probably still doing it each other. Over the course of the conversation I managed to text, you're too good for him. Period.  Of course this leads into a a lengthy text conversation forcing me to explain. 

In short, I expressed how I didn't like how he has treated her and her feelings and there's no excuse for him leading her on, making her think that he was going to divorce the wife that he's currently separated from-After, they were seeing each other for a year. Now granted, I've met the guy. He's a nice dude over all, BUT, I hate seeing my friends upset due to the insensitivity and inconsideration of someone else. Now yes, there are many many holes in this story that I'm not trying to expound on at the moment, however, I'm sure you've already painted a pretty picture of how this whole situation has gone.

Keep in mind, some how, she managed to squeeze in how he's made progress and bunch of other statements that I don't care to recall, but in my head, all I can think of is that, actions speak louder than words. Seems like, if he was serious about the situation, all this would be easy, right? Please correct me if I'm wrong. 

However, through this whole text fiasco, I'll take the blame, being that, sometimes I should just shut up. my friendship with her is way more important. 

How would you handle this situation? If you had a friend who you saw had their feelings hurt and receive disappointment, how would you try to get them away from an emotional situation?