Who is this dude?

Where did this guy even come from? I ask myself that question every single day!

In the summer, 7 years ago one of my girlfriends had a baby and I went to visit her in the hospital. When I walked in, my friend’s husband was in there with her and there was a tall, dark, and handsome man in there with them. I met him once, but remembered him forever. Later that year, we met up and talked once. We exchanged numbers and texted little to none and didn’t have any contact after that.

Even though we hadn’t spoken for years,  infrequently I would ask my girlfriend about him. (more so, just to find out if he was married or not, but that’s neither here nor there) This year, right before Christmas, I happened to ask about him and told her to pray that he could come home.  Christmas Eve I get a call from my girlfriend that he’s coming home and she’s going to host an early brunch so we can “run into” each other.

I’m super excited and I’m getting ready Christmas morning, and the next think you know, I find out that he’s not coming to brunch due to him and his family having family time. Ok. Cool. I said, ok. Maybe another time…Hopefully. I hear NOTHING. I told my girlfriend, I just need him to see me once and go on a date with him just once, so at least I know that I gave it a try.

New Year’s eve. I get a text message from him telling me hi and that he was going to call me this week, but that he just wanted me to save his number so that when he calls, I know it’s him.

He calls me last Wednesday. When we talked. It was like we picked up right where we left off. It was fun, it was easy, it wasn’t awkward, and we just talked about complete randomness. I was already smitten. Like I had been, for the past 7 years, from the initial meeting.  We talked the day after that and he told me, I want to see you. When can I see you? We ended up confirming for this past Saturday.

Saturday, we have our date. I scowered the city for an outfit. I didn’t want to be too sexy, because I wanted him to look at me, but pay attention to what I was actually saying.(thanks to a friend. I had sexy alllll in my thoughts initially!)  I saw him and he was just absolutely gorgeous. We went to Sushi Zushi and just had amazing conversation. We had so much in common and I was just liking him more and more. Afterwards we went to a nearby wine bar and just talked and talked some more. He surprised me and bought the bottle of wine that we both knocked all the way out together. Made out in the car on the way home and we’ve been inseparable all the way since.

Sunday, I met his parents and his sister and had family game night playing phase 10.  I still think his mother cheats! Then… Monday… he met my dad and some of my friends at an Alabama vs Notre Dame watch party. Every single night I was coming in late because I was him. 

Super exhausted at work all day everyday all week? Yes! Worked out one day this week? Yes! Ate unhealthy and greasy goodness all week with him? Hell yes! It was soooo worth it.

Trying my hand one more time at an LDR (long distance relationship), but it's just different this time. I'm not in college, I'm more mature, more patient, and more understanding. Most importantly, I have an income to actually work with this time to actually move about the cabin and have drinks. 

Cheers to me, moving on and finding what's really right and meant to be. 

Have you ever been in an LDR? How did it work out for you? Any suggestions on things to do... or not to do too?

Same ish different day

I was cleaning up and room and was going through a lot of things that needed to be thrown away a long time ago and I came across an old notebook. It was listing my peaks and pits of my day. It only had one date listed and it was about this same date this time last year. I read it, and burst into tears. Th same thing that I'm going through now, is what I was relatively going through this time last year.

The first thing I thought was, how could I be so stupid?! This is all my fault. First time, shame on him. Second time, shame on me. Yes. I feel super upset about my part in it, but also on how I just refused to pay attention to sign a when they were all there. My emotions got caught up in everything, along with mental and physical. There's so many lessons I learned from everything.

I do still believe that I love him. Everyday I come up with something I could have done differently. Now I just have to live with my choices. At this point, I don't particularly feel like they're good choices. It is what it is though. I just hope each day gets easier.

Sometimes I Should Shut Up

Apparently, I need to think before I text.

Texting a close friend at work ( I know, I know, but I was on my lunch break), and somehow I ended up expressing my feelings about her ex. Which really isn't too much of her ex, especially since they are probably still doing it each other. Over the course of the conversation I managed to text, you're too good for him. Period.  Of course this leads into a a lengthy text conversation forcing me to explain. 

In short, I expressed how I didn't like how he has treated her and her feelings and there's no excuse for him leading her on, making her think that he was going to divorce the wife that he's currently separated from-After, they were seeing each other for a year. Now granted, I've met the guy. He's a nice dude over all, BUT, I hate seeing my friends upset due to the insensitivity and inconsideration of someone else. Now yes, there are many many holes in this story that I'm not trying to expound on at the moment, however, I'm sure you've already painted a pretty picture of how this whole situation has gone.

Keep in mind, some how, she managed to squeeze in how he's made progress and bunch of other statements that I don't care to recall, but in my head, all I can think of is that, actions speak louder than words. Seems like, if he was serious about the situation, all this would be easy, right? Please correct me if I'm wrong. 

However, through this whole text fiasco, I'll take the blame, being that, sometimes I should just shut up. my friendship with her is way more important. 

How would you handle this situation? If you had a friend who you saw had their feelings hurt and receive disappointment, how would you try to get them away from an emotional situation?